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My girlfriend hates dirtbikes. Please help.
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Posted by: Micas---------------------

Ive had one for about 6 months now and since day one its been "you need to sell that thing" blah blah pretty much nonstop.

I cant go ride without being guilt tripped and its starting to effect my enjoyment while riding since i know what is in store when i get home.

All the other guys bring their wifes who mostly dont ride but enjoy being there either in support or just to hang out with each other.

She wouldnt ever ride herself but its not like she would be alone or anything.

She thinks its something that its not. We have a private track where a dozen or so of us meet and ride on sundays. Its a get together not just limited to riding. I always have a blast as do the females who go.

If i could ever get her to go with me and see this i think she would lighten up and at least let me ride without the constant guilt trips.

What should i go?

Posted by: BigRedAF---------------------

"DTB" ( Dump The -----)

They only get worse when you get married!

Posted by: Micas---------------------

If it comes to that sure, im willing to. Im definitely not selling my bike and im definitely not going to have it sitting in the garage.

She gets angry about something she knows nothing about. If i could just expose her to it i think she would change. If not i would then DTB like you suggested.

It would be a major inconvenience financially so im saving it as a last resort.

Posted by: ignition retard---------------------

Sounds like you live with her, man I feel your pain. I had a gf like that b4, but I finally got out, my new gf loves dirtbikes, and is just really positive in general.

Posted by: Steve St.Laurent---------------------

Quote:

Originally Posted by Micas

i think she would change.

This is the #1-#100 (top 100) mistakes people make in starting relationships. You want her to change to like what you do and she wants you to change to give up something you enjoy (love?) - happens ALL the time. Let me give you a large piece of advice gleamed from many years of seeing this happen over and over (now happily married 12 years btw). People DON'T CHANGE. If she wants to change some major aspect of your life you can bank on it that she'll continue to want to change it in the future - and many other things too. My wife and I understood when we got together that we each had separate interests that wouldn't involve the other one - we don't need to be around each other 24/7. She knows that motorcycling is in my blood and that it'll never go away. Girlfriends ask her regularly isn't she scared I'll get hurt, why doesn't she ask me to quit, etc. She says "motorcycling is who he is and I wouldn't change him if I could - besides even if I asked he wouldn't do it or if he did he would resent me for it" - smart and wise woman (LOVE ya honey!)

Posted by: Micas---------------------

Thanks for the reply. I totally understand where you are coming from.

Id have to cut my own throat to leave though. I wont really go into it because im sure nobody cares.

Maybe i'll just ignore her angst and keep doing my thing, and if it blows up it blows up.

Im still holding out hope that some female will come in here and give me the miracle cure though.

Posted by: WomanRider---------------------

Hey, there is no meracle cure. I have been happily married for the last 25 years to a dirt biker nut. I was not always into bikes like he was, but I understood that he loved it so I never asked him to stop. We have had friends who have wifes have asked them to stop riding and they have had many problem over the years. I think it is a control thing. Somehow I bet you are both young, and she has thoughts of changing you as do you wanting to change her. It never works, If you love someone you love them for who they are and not what you want them to be or do. I agree with the guys, the relationship will not work out in the long run unless you accept each other for who you are now, unchanged.

Posted by: IndyMX---------------------

I was single for 4 years after my divorce. My main criteria for a new significant other was her ability to accept the fact that some days it's a "me thing, not a we thing" and I will be riding.

I found one that can cope with that, she just asks that she gets equal time together.

It's call compromise.

If you can't do that, RUN!!!

Posted by: Rooster---------------------

Damn, I'm one lucky guy. My wife rides dirt bikes with me

Sorry, had to rub it in a bit. My "X" hated my dirt bike passion, and ultimately accused me of having an affair while out riding. Tell me how, when I come home with my hair all sticking up and covered with dirt from head to toe, was I having an affair? LOL Stupid girl!

Maybe you should try getting a little bike for your girl and let her ride and find the fun in the sport. It takes very little to get someone addicted to riding.

Best of luck, I know your pain.

Posted by: m4i2k2e2---------------------

yea my girlfriend is really cool about it. when i first got the bike she tried the your always riding hang out with me this weekend. i told her that when i riding she can call but shes not to ask when im gonna be home. she knows that, that one day a week for me to ride is very important. shes very cool about it. she wants a dirtbike to ride now. i just picked up a 125 for her and my little brother to ride around on.

Posted by: BigRedAF---------------------

Quote:

Originally Posted by Micas

It would be a major inconvenience financially so im saving it as a last resort.

It will only get worse, the nice do anything part of a new relationship is over and even that sucked, DTB!

Posted by: Micas---------------------

From what everyone has said i have gathered that the situation is pretty hopeless. She is either going to get over it or get out i guess.

I have decided to just keep doing my thing. I wont dump her but if it comes to that i wont protest.

Im going tomorrow and i plan on asking her ONE MORE TIME if she wants to go. At least i wont be able to fault myself for not trying.

Anyway, thanks for the replies people. Really is a great forum

Posted by: justalonewolf007---------------------

One last thing you could try is a "bribe" of sorts.

Offer to take her out for a dinner *if* she tries the motocross gathering once...

Something at least worth mentioning...

Good luck!

Posted by: BigRedAF---------------------

Quote:

Originally Posted by Micas

From what everyone has said i have gathered that the situation is pretty hopeless. She is either going to get over it or get out i guess.

I have decided to just keep doing my thing. I wont dump her but if it comes to that i wont protest.

Im going tomorrow and i plan on asking her ONE MORE TIME if she wants to go. At least i wont be able to fault myself for not trying.

Anyway, thanks for the replies people. Really is a great forum

Don't take her, if you do you will be distracted. You'll be trying to keep her busy and interested in something that she hates, bad idea.

Just go do your thing, maybe next time she'll ask to come and you'll be the lead dog.

I've been riding for years and had several chicks prior to my wife. Trust me, once she starts laying down the rules you'll be getting "it" on her schedule so take command now or move on.

Posted by: squeaky---------------------

Micas - a relationship has to be built on an understanding that you are you and your gf is who she is. Perhaps the best way to resolve the situation would not be to bring her to your riding area. If she's not interested, then she's not interested. Talk to her and tell her that riding is your hobby and that is what you want to do. Does she have any hobbies? If not, perhaps it's time she finds one.

Let her know that you are not going to give up something in life that you thoroughly enjoy just because she doesn't like it. But, make sure you don't expect her to give up anything she enjoys, or you'll be in a world of trouble.

If she still doesn't want you to ride dirtbikes - well then I'd consider making her an ex-girlfriend, because as many have said here, it's only going to get worse.

Posted by: BigRedAF---------------------

Quote:

Originally Posted by squeaky

Micas - a relationship has to be built on an understanding that you are you and your gf is who she is. Perhaps the best way to resolve the situation would not be to bring her to your riding area. If she's not interested, then she's not interested. Talk to her and tell her that riding is your hobby and that is what you want to do. Does she have any hobbies? If not, perhaps it's time she finds one.

Let her know that you are not going to give up something in life that you thoroughly enjoy just because she doesn't like it. But, make sure you don't expect her to give up anything she enjoys, or you'll be in a world of trouble.

If she still doesn't want you to ride dirtbikes - well then I'd consider making her an ex-girlfriend, because as many have said here, it's only going to get worse.

I don't know Squeaky but she has good advise from the other side.

Posted by: 250girl---------------------

Just a suggestion, maybe bribe her into going for a short little trail ride with you.Double on your bike, make it sweet, DO NOT pull any wheelies or make a lot of noise.And I know that doubling on a bike that does not have passenger pegs can be difficult, but it is do-able. Maybe make it a little romantic( OMG I can't believe I am saying this), if she is scared, slow down. Maybe, just maybe, a positive dirtbike experience would soften her up a little, make her realize that it is not so bad.

Just an Idea, hope things work out,
250girl

Posted by: _JOE_---------------------

Take a sunday and offer to take her to the track and leave your bike at home. Like you said it's also a social sport. Go and hang out, introduce her to your friends. Maybe she's afraid of going to hang out with a bunch of people she doesn't know while you ride.

Posted by: Ol'89r---------------------

Quote:

Originally Posted by Micas

Id have to cut my own throat to leave though.

Better than cutting off your,,,,,,,aaaaaaaa,,,,,nevermind.

At least your throat will heal.

I had a gf like that many years ago. We will call her Kathy because, well, that was her name.

She wanted my undivided attention 100 percent of the time. She knew I was into motorcycles but we never talked about it. Every time I would try to tell her about bikes and racing, she would change the subject.

One day I bought a new motorcycle. A BSA 250cc C15. I was very proud of my new bike, (actually a used bike but new to me.) I rode it over to her house to show it to her and to take her for a ride. She took one look at it and said, "I don't like motorcycles". Then she said, "and I don't like the people that ride them either." I said ok and left. Never went back.

She called a few times and I told her I planned on being very involved in motorcycles and racing in the future and if she couldn't deal with that she needed to find a new bf. She called my mom for years after that and they would talk about how she couldn't keep a husband and how screwed up her life was. My mom would tell me all the sorted details.

After that I met my wife. On our first date I took her to a motorcycle race. It was the first race I ever won. I figured, this one's a keeper.

Since then, he has traveled with me all over the country racing and living out of a van. She supports me 100 percent and now supports our grandson. Yesterday, we spent the day at Perris at the nat's qualifier with our grandson. That would have never happened with Kathy.

I agree with others here. Give her a chance. Tell her how important it is to you and try to take her to an event and explain everything that is happening to her.

If she just can't deal with it, run like hell. Cut your losses regardless of how invested you are in the relationship. Sometimes things happen for the best. No matter how bleak things seem in the beginning, they usually work out for the best. When I look back and think about how my life would have been with Kathy I feel like I dodged a big bullet. Actually, a nuclear missile. Im sure by now I would be just another one of her ex husbands.

Like others have said, if it starts off bad it only gets worse.

Posted by: ebony dream---------------------

hey you shouldnt have to feel guilty to enjoy something u like..and this is comming from a gurl..my boyfriend has a road bike and i kno they are dangerous but i never once stop him or give him a guilt trip for going out for a couple of hours and doing wat boys do..she would enjoy it i just got a suzuki 125 and im more on it than off ...itll bring u lcloser if she only takes it up beleive me..good luck...but deff dont sell it

Posted by: Dirtbikehunny---------------------

I am a girl and i love bikes. Then again before i got into dirt bikes i rode a street bike. My boyfriend is the one who exposed me to dirt biking and i love it. Just get her out on the thing and teach her to ride. She'll see how much fun it is and she might come to understand why you love it so much.

Posted by: rostifer---------------------

have her read this thread. Maybe she'll feel guilty... On the other hand maybe she'll be pissed.

Posted by: SpeedyManiac---------------------

Try to get her to come out to the track. If she doesn't and keeps nagging you about the bike, DTB. I knew it was time to let an awesome girl go, when I qualified for the ISDE and she didn't even care. It's tough to end a relationship, but it is for the best. Now Ol'89r, any tips on finding a keeper?

Posted by: xsnrg---------------------

I was going to say have her read this, but I don't think she'd make it past where he said he'd 'DTB' if she didn't change if it came to that. But, I can only agree with those that posted before me. Reminds me of when I met my wife, she 'sensed' that skiing was something I really enjoyed and if she didn't take to it she'd be history. (she was right, actually). She enthusiastically agreed to go try even though she wasn't into it it at all, and she found (even after a first miserable experience), that she loved to ski too. It is silly to think I probably would have 'moved on' had she not b/c she's absolutely awesome and I couldn't imagine a better life parter, best friend and "mate".
If your girl doesn't fit that bill, you may have bigger issues before you than the fact that she doesn't like you dirtbiking.

You haven't 'gone into it' so perhaps there are things we don't know to give you correct advice.

How about this...you two need to discuss how you're going to handle interests that the other person has/develops in time. It isn't necessary for each of you to love the same things, but if you can't figure out how to compromise, give each other room to be yourselves, and be reasonable in how much time and resource you spend on your 'unshared' interests, you're not going to have a happy future, and dirtbiking will be a small piece of the problem.

Posted by: xsnrg---------------------

Quote:

Originally Posted by SpeedyManiac

Try to get her to come out to the track. If she doesn't and keeps nagging you about the bike, DTB. I knew it was time to let an awesome girl go, when I qualified for the ISDE and she didn't even care. It's tough to end a relationship, but it is for the best. Now Ol'89r, any tips on finding a keeper?

Look for one near dirtbikes?

Posted by: ebony dream---------------------

yeh i agree with that ...wat a shame she had no interest in the things u did relationships are 2 way streets..u dont have to do exactly wat the other does but u accept the different things each person does ..my man doesnt exactly like comming shopping but we make it enjoyable and he gets to spend time with me..i dont neccessarily like going down to his ride days and watch him go crazy on his road bike at rediculous speeds but..its wat he likes to do and i support him plus now im starting to get a lil roadbike fever hehe

Posted by: Ol'89r---------------------

Quote:

Originally Posted by SpeedyManiac

Now Ol'89r, any tips on finding a keeper?

Mostly luck. I consider myself a very lucky guy to have found my wife.

Just be yourself and do your thing. Let her find you. If you do your own thing you will eventually run into someone that has similar interests. I met my wife at my sponsors house. She was a friend of my sponsors wife. She was willing to follow me from racetrack to racetrack and support me with my racing. In turn, I support her with her horses. She is into horse jumping and dressage and if you think motorcycles are expensive, you ain't seen nutin".

A successful relationship takes two people working as a team. Two heads are better than one, especially in todays world. If it is all about her or all about you, it won't work. You have to be willing to bend but still hold on to your values.

If you have a gf that DEMANDS your total attention and is always unhappy, you will never be able to make her happy. It's not up to us to make another person happy if that person doesn't want to be happy. It will only drag you down to her level and neither one of you will be happy. Cut your losses and get out while you can. Let the right one find you.

I'm certainly not an expert on the subject but I have been married to the same lady for over 40 years.

Posted by: xsnrg---------------------

The true test of whether a man is willing to give as much as he takes would to be to have a woman who's passion is horses. I think she is the winner in that tradeoff!

Posted by: jcarautos1---------------------

Wow do you have a sister?

Posted by: justalonewolf007---------------------

Doesn't always work that way - I have two sisters, and they won't ride. I still can't understand that one...

Posted by: XRpredator---------------------

Micas,

There's a lot of good advice in here, and a lot of it from women even!

I've been married over 15 years now (dang!) and while I was on a break from dirt bikes when we got married, it didn't take me long to get back into it. She has been hunting with me maybe twice, and is just a little too prone to panic to ride a dirt bike. I guess we've managed to make it work because we understand that we each can have our own hobbies. We have our things together -- lately, both of us volunteer for the ambulance and fire department -- then she has her hobbies and I have my hobbies. She plays pinochle and goes for walks with her friend, I ride dirt bikes and go hunting.

It's worked so far. Maybe your lady just needs a hobby besides you.

Posted by: Uchytil---------------------

Good luck in this day and age of the easy way out. Married 28 years and guess where we went for our anniversay? Indy SX ( and other hasppening Indy events). Bottom line, IMO, is there must be we, and me, time. Mutual respect of each others interests, and in our case she likes watching MX with me and has gotten to know the riders pretty well. If I were in your shoes I would make sure we had common long term goals, ie. commitment, settle down, travel, savings, house, kids, save the world, whatever. If they align then focus on the little things like riding (you), shopping for furniture (her), blah, blah. Someone said it before - Marriage changes everything so make sure you think you know what your'e doing, and then, at least, you'll be partially right.

Posted by: Ol'89r---------------------

Quote:

Originally Posted by Uchytil

Marriage changes everything so make sure you think you know what your'e doing, and then, at least, you'll be partially right.

HA!

Are you kidding???

If he gets married he'll never be right again.

Just kidding ladies.

Posted by: gracey---------------------

Quote:

Originally Posted by xsnrg

I was going to say have her read this, but I don't think she'd make it past where he said he'd 'DTB' if she didn't change if it came to that. But, I can only agree with those that posted before me. Reminds me of when I met my wife, she 'sensed' that skiing was something I really enjoyed and if she didn't take to it she'd be history. (she was right, actually). She enthusiastically agreed to go try even though she wasn't into it it at all, and she found (even after a first miserable experience), that she loved to ski too. It is silly to think I probably would have 'moved on' had she not b/c she's absolutely awesome and I couldn't imagine a better life parter, best friend and "mate".
If your girl doesn't fit that bill, you may have bigger issues before you than the fact that she doesn't like you dirtbiking.

You haven't 'gone into it' so perhaps there are things we don't know to give you correct advice.

How about this...you two need to discuss how you're going to handle interests that the other person has/develops in time. It isn't necessary for each of you to love the same things, but if you can't figure out how to compromise, give each other room to be yourselves, and be reasonable in how much time and resource you spend on your 'unshared' interests, you're not going to have a happy future, and dirtbiking will be a small piece of the problem.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Uchytil

Good luck in this day and age of the easy way out. Married 28 years and guess where we went for our anniversay? Indy SX ( and other hasppening Indy events). Bottom line, IMO, is there must be we, and me, time. Mutual respect of each others interests, and in our case she likes watching MX with me and has gotten to know the riders pretty well. If I were in your shoes I would make sure we had common long term goals, ie. commitment, settle down, travel, savings, house, kids, save the world, whatever. If they align then focus on the little things like riding (you), shopping for furniture (her), blah, blah. Someone said it before - Marriage changes everything so make sure you think you know what your'e doing, and then, at least, you'll be partially right.

I concur...

Yeah....mutual respect..... From what I've read here.... It is hard to see that that exists on either side of this equation. sigh. Remember the old days when people actually talked about love in a relationship? Let alone affection.

It's dark times.

Posted by: Wyoming Kate---------------------

Hey Micas,

I'm female, and love riding dirt bikes, snowmachines, and going fishing... go figure... I had to leave a marraige of 23 years, my home, and financial security to go after what I wanted in life...

Either have the guts to give up what you have to in order to get what is the most important to you - - or stop whining!

If a girl has the courage to leave and to ride - I guy sure can!

Posted by: SIXSIXZERO---------------------

i too lost a gf due to riding. im better off, less distracted and less stressed. i have met a new girl & she is all about it, wich is a huge change for me. so far, she doesnt come to my races or riding, but thats fine. my ride time is my ride time. riding is one of the first things i put on the table when i date. this has been a hobby of mine since i was 5, and am 31 now, so i dont think any changes will be happening any time soon. do what ya do man, if she doesnt like it, hit the road. relationships are built on trust and understanding, sacrafices and interests.
it doesnt sound like she understands you or who you are. i will tell you that im a recovering alcoholic, and riding and racing has been my godsend to help me with this. the motocross community is a very friendly place and most people will help you out in any way they can. they have been a HUGE part of my life and will continue to be, no ifs, ands, or buts. im still on the lookout for that"one". i know ill find her, maybe at a race or a ride, who knows. ive had enough failed relationships to finally say its not worth the headaches or heartbreak. KEEP ON RIDING TILL YOUR HEARTS CONTENT!!!!!! itlll all work out in the end if ya want it to....

Posted by: ebony dream---------------------

to me its all about compromise....u both need ur time together and u both need ur time apart...seriously sit down and talk to her about it..tell her how passionate u are about riding...and that its ur time to chill and let loose and when ur not riding u can have ur time together ...sort it out that way maybe before u just up and leave cuz she doesnt like it...relationships are about working things out. if u can come to some sort of agreemant that makes her happy and u happy its a win win situation

Posted by: mtk---------------------

Or you could just cut to the chase, dump her, and move on.

That's where you'll end up anyway, this method just saves you a lot of time and headaches.

Posted by: Hergert521---------------------

One guy I dated thought it was cool he had a girlfriend that rode a dirtbike. The last guy I dated however was a different story, when we stopped dating he told me that I needed to find a guy that was really into motorcycle riding, among other things. He said I spent too much time on motorcycle related things, such as hanging out at my friends land while they rode all day. finding someone who shares the same interests like the great sport of motocross is an important thing!

Posted by: DannyB728---------------------

Im with BigRed on this one, time to ****can her and get a new one who shares your intrests or at least keeps her mouth shut and understands that its a sickness that cant be cured.

Posted by: ebony dream---------------------

lol u men...its just easier to get rid of thm huh...lol

Posted by: JediRye---------------------

I found this thread and laughed because my boyfriend is the one who doesn't really like riding!

However, after buying a second bike so I won't always be riding alone, he is slowly adapting but honestly, I think my grandma would go faster. It's funny because I just made a post on another forum about how my kx250f almost blew up. My boyfriend was riding it, and I later found out it was because he was riding so slow, no air was going through the radiator and it overheated causing pressurized steam and antifreeze to shoot out of the overflow (looking like it was going to blow). One step at a time!

-rye

Posted by: abrocks22---------------------

you guys should throw like a BBQ at the track before you and the guys ride. She will be forced to be there and you could show here what its really like. Show her a lap or two then take her home. dont push it too much but let her see what it means to yuo

Posted by: dice_jay---------------------

oh memories........I had a KX 250 when my current wife and I got together. that was 300 years or so now (12 actually) She made me sell my bike. I played "by the rules" for a lot of years and was very unhappy. Forget the advice from people that tell you to bribe her and such. Relationships are about understanding and patience. If it's meant to be, then she'll accept it. I came home with a new RC airplane one day and she freaked!! At that point, I had enough and just told her, I am who I am and I won't change that for anybody, if you want somebody else than go find him and that I'd GIVE her all the assets just to walk away. As of today, she actually buys me RC planes. When I told her I was buying a second dirtbike she just gave me the "tisk" then asked me if I wanted any new gear because my birthday was coming up. She also came with me to pick up the Yamaha Viper 700 sled I don't need either. Be who you are, but remember that it is a two way street.

Posted by: Girlsride2---------------------

Well I am a women rider and do not have a cure cuz there isn't one. I do feel no man nor women should have to change period, if you truely love to ride you will find a way to compromise or things may end not so great .Ok this may sound corny but just follow your heart thats what I do and I know I am a girl and guys think we are all musshy and stuff but I am still single cuz they want me to change and theres no way in hell I will change for anyone nor should you. Well good luck and I hope all goes well with all your issues!

Posted by: ptit714---------------------

So I was thinking about a resolution or some way to help. I love dirtbikes, I ride w/my husband all the time. Maybe that's just not her thing though. A possibility however, is to make her feel like she is involved when you go riding. Tell her to find a friend of hers to go out w/you guys so she has someone she knows there to chill with. Then tell her you want to get some cool shots on your bike or a kick ass video of you riding & you need her help to shoot it or get the pictures. Then she'll feel needed & wanted & more like she's helping you accomplish something rather than just feeling like a 3rd wheel because that's the only way she can see you is by sitting around while you ride. I dunno, just a thought.

Posted by: sharky243---------------------

Get rid of the girlfriend if she won't let you do the things you love. It's a 2-way street and she may need to learn that the hard way.

Posted by: nsxxtreme---------------------

I think the idea of bribing her to go out is a good one. I try to involve my girlfriend in everything I do. I purchased her her own crf150r and she enjoys riding it. You at least have to make the effort to involve her. If she still has the same attitude I agree DTB. If she makes no effort to understand then she is not worth keeping. Relationships are two way streets if their is no effort to understand what is important to both people the relationship will not work out. I have been with my girlfriend for 14 years now something I am doing must be working.

The important thing is to try and get her involved. She needs to feel like she is still important to you even when your out doing your thing. Even if she isn't out there riding with you.

Posted by: NoSlowBike---------------------

You don't have to find one that loves the sport. You just need to find the one that understands what makes you happy. My wife couldn't care less about the bikes, guns, trucks or cars that I have but she knows it makes me happy to do it. She hangs out in the garage and helps me or just hangs out wile I am doing what I do. She knows I work 70-100 hours a week to pay the bills so she understands that she is my entire world but there are other things in it as well. If she decided to tell me that she didn't want me to do any of it, i would be the end of 13 years together and 7 years married. She often times reminds me that there was something I wanted to order for something I am working on. Does it get any better than that? Oh yeah, she's hot and a damn good cook too.

Phil

Posted by: NikkiG28---------------------

I'm a wife and a rider. I hated riding for a lil while until I went into the woods with my husband and son. Since then you can't get me out of the woods until my tank is empty! We both have our time out too, some days he goes with his friends and some days I go with them we always figure it out together. If she won't go with you then she really can't complain about it, don't knock it till you try it!!! I hope you can figure it out like we did.

Posted by: TattedChick---------------------

ok im a female i ride, so dose my lover, now ive dated others that didnt ride and did evrything to get me to get rid of my toys, NOT GONNA HAPPEN. my b.f has run in to this issue with his x's as well. The only thing i can tell u is, if shes on ur case now and makes u feel bad its only gonna get worse. No one should guilt any one into doing or not doing something, is there some hidden reson or something deeper y she dosnt want u to go ride, r u spending more time rideing than with her, r u 2 not doing anything speical, just becuse u ride and she dons't , dosnt mean she ever has to ride or will ride, but she needs to relizes that it dosnt m ean u need to get ride of ur toys as well.
If ur not doing anything wrong u should be able to ride and she dosnt have to like it but she should never make u feel like crap for it, i say either tell her u new i did this when we dated, im not giving it up either learn to be ok with it or were going to have to split. yha its harsh but this is comeing from the moulth of a chick whos been in ur same spot and have had the same issue, serously how much fun do u have riding now when ur feeling guilty about it, shes being selfish. thats not cool, unless ur spending money u dont have and arnt doing **** with her shes got no right to bitch

Posted by: 1SWEETYZ---------------------

What an awesome thread, I wanted to ask this as I am going through the same with my wife. Lots of awesome info and advice. I have been riding since I was 13 and now I'm 33 I really dont want to stop, I hope she doesnt lose it when she finds out I'm opening a public track lol

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